3 Simple Strategies to Overcome New Mom Guilt

Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two breathes.—Etty Hillesum

1. If you’re not overcome with joy, it’s okay…you’re freakin tired.  Sleep. 

TIPS:

  • Sleep when baby sleeps
  • Ask for help and have your family bring you meal(s)
  • Share your worries and frustrations with your family
  • Call your OBGYN if you or a family member is concerned
  • Take a bath, we know it’s been three days since you’ve showered.  It’s okay we all have to be reminded too.

2. Don’t know if your baby is getting enough to eat?  Count diapers and do weight checks.

TIPS: We want baby peeing and pooping

GOALS:

  • 1 pee and 1 poop for the first day of life
  • 2 pees and 2 poops for the second day of life
  • 3 pees and 3 poops for the third day of life
  • 4 pees and 4 poops for the fourth day of life
  • 5 pees and 5 poops for the fifth day of life
  • 5 pees and 6 poops for the sixth day of life

So, it doesn’t keep going up like crazy, it will steady out but you want baby to be peeing and pooping daily.  Everything is individualized, so it’s OKAY if your baby doesn’t meet these goals, this is just a guide to help you see how things are going.  If your baby has more pees and poops…Woohoo!  If they have less, it’s okay just keep feeding, more milk will come in.  Talk to your pediatrician if you have any concerns, that’s what they’re there for!    (NOTE: First week of life most all babies lose weight, they’ll start gaining their weight back around their 6th day of life.)

  • Call your pediatrician and discuss your concerns
  • Call a lactation consultant for guidance and one-on-one support
  • If you have a type A personality: Buy a baby weighing scale to check pre and post weights after feeds  

3. It’s okay to take care of yourself.

TIPS: As a mom, I know you’re worried about the decisions you’re making but this is so much more than a birth or the postpartum period, it’s about a lifetime.  Feeling guilty is normal but taking a step back to love and appreciate yourself is vital.  I know you’re trying hard.  Sometimes we try really hard and things don’t go well, but accepting life as it unfolds can be beautiful too.  Life is not Facebook perfect and we all know that, so let’s stop comparing, let’s empower each other, let’s listen to our intuition and love they self!  Do something special for yourself this week.  Examples: Take a nap, meditate, read a book, get outside, take a bath with Epson salt or move mindfully through a yoga sequence.   

I’d love to know: When you’re feeling mommy guilt and how you get through it.

Important: Leave a comment below and share your empowering tips.  Other moms can truly benefit from what you have to say!

From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much for reading.  Share this post with anyone you think would benefit. 

XO,

Jenny

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